An e-mail from a wife and mother (in response to this):
I was fooled into college campus feminism, by what I’m still not sure. After I had my first daughter, the light dawned. But by then I was married to a man who also bought into the notion that women should work outside the home (still does, unfortunately) and we were in a financial situation that required my income.
It has taken me 8 years, but I’ve been able to wean from work to the point that I work about 15 hours a week from home. It’s still not ideal, b/c I’m still running myself completely ragged. And my husband and I still disagree about my level of work which is a source of constant tension. But…..I can actually be a mother to my children. And that’s all that matters.