Third, Sullivan asks why pro-marriage types often ignore attempts to strengthen divorce laws but oppose gay marriage. Actually, pro-marriage types like Linda Waite and Maggie Gallagher (whose book I defended repeatedly when Harvard refused to publish it) do favor divorce reform. Yet Waite favors gay marriage while Gallagher opposes it. In general the marriage movement is much more divided on gay marriage than Sullivan implies. Some traditionalists want to move back to the fifties on the question of divorce. I see that as neither possible nor desirable. A waiting period in contested divorces involving children (a Waite-Gallagher suggestion) is a promising idea, however.